elephant in the room

What it means

An elephant in the room is a big, unmistakable problem or topic that everyone present is aware of but no one wants to bring up — usually because it's awkward, painful, or politically risky. It shows up constantly in workplace meetings, family gatherings, and political coverage.

Examples

• Let's address the elephant in the room: we missed our quarterly target.
• Nobody mentioned his drinking, but it was the elephant in the room.
• The CEO finally talked about layoffs — the elephant in the room all month.
• There's an elephant in the room here, and it's the cost of childcare.

Where it comes from

Often traced to the Russian fabulist Ivan Krylov's 1814 tale 'The Inquisitive Man', about a visitor who notices every tiny detail in a museum but somehow misses the elephant. The English form became common in the late 20th century as a metaphor for avoided topics.

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